This made me think, am I defined by my hair?? Why is hair such a big deal for women of color? We get criticized for being relaxed, we get criticized for being natural and we get criticized for wearing weaves! What does that leave us??
I stared and then I drooled for like 5 minutes. Then I decided that i want that fro! I feel that now days the Afro is more than a hairstyle, it's a statement! It screams, I don't care if long, straight, thin and down to the ground hair is in style, I'm gonna be defiant and let my hair be thick, kinkilicious and shoot up to the heavens! I was really nervous, ok i was down right scared, to try it! Then I came up with several reason why I shouldn't do it:
Reason #1 I cant workout because I will sweat my hair out.
Reason #2 I don't want damage my real hair by putting all that heat on it.
Reason #3 Its not long enough yet, I just want it to grow a little more before I wear it.
Reason #4 I don't feel as pretty with my natural hair.
Reason #5 I don't want the people at my job touching my hair or asking all kinds of stupid question.
Reason #6 It's too hot and sunny.
Reason #7 It's too cold and rainy.
Reason #8 Men, especially Black men, don't like natural hair.
Reason #9 I don't want people to think I'm that militant anti American, anti social, don't say anything to me or I'll snap on u black girl!
**sigh** ladies have you experienced a similar dilemma with similar reasoning???
I finally I decided I can't live in fear of what others think or how they will react, what kind of life is that???? It's just hair and it's MY hair at that!!! So i put on "Eye of the Tiger" for some inspiration, stuck out my chest, washed my hair, said a quick prayer and grabbed an Afro pic...and unfortunately my fro:
well, it was deflated AND lets just say it was a no no lol turns out after years of heat applications my hair is toooooo straight:( But I don't plan to stop there! For the rest of September, I plan to look to the 70's for inspiration and wear my hair in various natural styles. This should be fun, and I'm excited to see how creative I can be :)